Father’s Day is a celebration for many — but for others, it reopens old wounds. The absence of a father can leave scars that go far beyond childhood.
A new studyfrom the University of Virginia (UVA) underscores just how early those wounds can take root. Girls with unengaged fathers were found to be 9% more likely to experience depression. For boys, the increase is smaller but still significant at 3%.
UVA’s findings indicate that the presence of an engaged father has a profound effect on a child’s emotional well-being, especially for daughters. A broader body of research confirms this impact. Children with involved fathers are more likely to experience happiness, life satisfaction, and fewer behavioral problems.
The study noted three distinct ways fathers typically shape their children’s development: through active play that fosters emotional regulation, encouragement to take healthy risks and face challenges, and a unique approach to discipline that promotes order and respect.
As sociologist David Eggebeen put it, “The evidence is in, and it is clear that fathers do matter in the lives of their children.”
So it’s no wonder that when a father is absent or his love falls short, the wounds can run deep — affecting not just emotional well-being, but the way we relate to God Himself.
The faith reminds us that no earthly father, no matter how loving or flawed, can fully satisfy the heart’s deepest need. That role belongs to God the Father alone. In His love, the wounds left by human fathers can be acknowledged — and healed.
This healing is the focus of a free video series called “My father’s Father,” available on Wild Goose TV. In it, Fransiscan Father Dave Pivonka reflects on his own relationship with his dad and invites viewers to consider what it means to truly know God as Father — especially for those carrying wounds from their earthly fathers.
“God is Father — this is the life-altering revelation of Jesus,” the series description reads. “Yet, how many of us struggle to know that we have a Father in heaven who knows, loves, and chooses us as His sons and daughters?”
The series journeys through Fr. Dave’s hometown and memories of his late father, offering a reflection on what it means to know and trust God as Father. It explores the fear, shame, and brokenness that often distort our view of God — and the freedom that comes with embracing Him as the loving Father He truly is.
“John Paul [II] would always say ‘all of the spiritual life is a journey, a pilgrimage to the heart of the Father.’” Fr. Pivonka said in the trailer for the series. “Jesus ultimately wants to reveal our Father, for each of us. [And] when we experience the love of the Father, it changes everything.”